Approach towards life

Ours was an arranged marriage. It was done the traditional way. Our parents took care of everything. My only condition was that she should be ready to work. Our horoscopes and photos were exchanged.
Everything matched. I spoke to her over the phone. We talked about things two strangers would talk.
She was a lecturer in Bangalore who felt Chemistry was more important than Hindi movies. There was no engagement. The date for marriage was fixed in 2 weeks as I could not get a vacation after that. Even the vacation time I got was just 10 days.


Everything was fixed. It was supposed to be very hectic for me. We got married and 2 days later we had to leave the country. She cried like there was no tomorrow when we left. She would not talk to me on the plane. I thought that was usual for an Indian girl. I thought she would get over it. Once home she would not talk to me. She sat in a corner staring at the TV. For the first couple of days I had to catch up on some work and did not take her mood seriously. A week later I sat beside her and asked her, "What is wrong?""Look, everybody feels homesick. I did when I came here the first time.


It is normal. You will get over it. Sorry I have been busy with work. We can go out this weekend. You will meet my friends and other people who will be very friendly. Come on be a good girl" "I hate this place. I miss my family, my friends, my college. All the people I know are not here. I want to go home" "Think for a minute. Try to reason it out yourself. What is your plan by the way? So you want to go back and never come back?" "Yes" "Are you crazy?" "If you think this is crazy then I am." "It is ok if you do not answer this question. Is there someone else?" "No. I want to go home. I will call 911 if you do not send me" "First cool down.


Think about it. Think about our parents. It is less than a month that we got married and now you want to return home. You very well knew that you had to come here. What were you thinking? Even if you are returning home what happens to our marriage?" "I am not blaming you. I take the blame. It is my mistake. I can't stay so far away from my family. If you are so interested come to India" "I am family too! What you are asking is ridiculous." The next day she would not change her mind.